As a child we may spend our life observing our emotions. It is a way of righting a wrong, a way for us to understand our life and for us to understand that we don’t need to copy other people’s emotional behaviour.
So how do the emotions work?
It is the psyche that is responsible for our emotions, thoughts and behaviour. It is the totality of the human mind, unconscious and conscious. It controls our response patterns to our environment and recreates our unconscious experiences, which reside below the level of conscious thinking, so that we look for and learn how to deal with some of those patterns.
Once we begin to analyse and recognise character trait patterns that reside below our level of conscious awareness, we can begin the healing process. Trauma stems from patterns that continually play out on a conscious level. Only when we change our unconscious thinking, will we change our conscious thinking.
It’s easy for us to see this when children engage in child’s play. Have you ever noticed how children enact traumatic events they’ve seen over and over, without consciously being aware that’s what they’re doing, until they solve the problem and come to a different conclusion?
In adults, it’s our inner child that re-enacts our traumas from childhood until we too solve those and find different conclusions. The reality is that many of us will never go on to recognise trauma in this way and if we do, we’ll often choose to ignore those behaviour patterns, because they’re too difficult to deal with.