As a child I spent my life observing my emotions. It was my way of righting a wrong, a way for me to understand my life and for me to understand that I didn’t need to copy other people’s emotional behaviour.
So how do the emotions work?
It is the psyche that is responsible for our emotions, thoughts and behaviour. It is the totality of the human mind, unconscious and conscious. It controls our response patterns to our environment and recreates our unconscious experiences, which reside below the level of conscious thinking, so that we look for and learn how to deal with some of those patterns.
Once we begin to analyse and recognise character trait patterns that reside below our level of conscious awareness, we can begin the healing process. Trauma stems from patterns that continually play out on a conscious level. Only when we change our unconscious thinking, will we change our conscious thinking.
It’s easy for us to see this, when children engage in child’s play. Have you ever noticed how children enact traumatic events they’ve seen over and over, without consciously being aware that’s what they’re doing, until they solve the problem and come to a different conclusion?
In adults it’s our inner-child that re-enacts our own traumas from childhood, until we too solve and find different conclusions. The sad reality of course is that the majority of us will never go on to recognise trauma in this way and if we do, we’ll often choose to ignore those behaviour patterns, because they’re often too difficult to deal with.
At a very early age, I consciously made a pact with myself that I would choose to deal with my own trauma issues and as the adult through my site that is exactly what I’m doing.