How to develop Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the psychological process of purposely bringing attention to our experiences, occurring in the present moment without judgment.

Mindfulness can be developed through the practice of meditation, or just spending time quietly in thought. It’s something we must have if we are going to have peace in our lives. We must start, or continue to work on developing mindfulness.

Allow yourself to feel and understand your emotions. Self-care is the first step to creating mindfulness. Self-care means you’re working on being self-aware. Learn to align yourself with your internal thoughts, allow your feelings to come to the surface, then identify your goals, so that you start working towards those, taking accountability for how you choose to reach them.

To practice mindfulness, we must firstly learn to put in place effective listening techniques, so that we spend more time finding or reaching an understanding and less time feeling misunderstood. If used consistently, mindfulness can have a domino effect in other areas of our lives too if continually used. Staying grounded in the moment, it can also stop worry and anxiety.

Start by placing your feet on the floor and take a moment to notice your surroundings, what is going on around you. Close your eyes and notice the quiet. Mindfulness is intuitive, perceiving mindfulness by intuition without rational thought as a person, or the mind.

Developing mindfulness creates a less stressed, happier atmosphere, which means you’re more likely to cope with life’s challenges, and make better decisions. It also means you’ll spend less time focusing on things out of your control.

Being mindful means you’re also less likely to ruminate on issues, increase working memory, so having greater cognitive ability.


29 Jun, 2020

2 thoughts on “How to develop Mindfulness

  1. Mindfulness has been extremely helpful to me since I went through the DBT classes.

    It was written mostly for people with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) but it would be great for everyone, since it has a lot to do with life skills.

    My siblings and I weren’t really allowed to do much of anything and forced to deal with surviving on our own. It was very difficult staying in the moment when we had to worry about things like where our next meal was going to come from.

    People complain about things like how tough they think their childhoods were, but right now I’m just trying to take things one day at a time and enjoy the life I have.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, I can see how it will have been difficult staying in the moment. It’s also not fine, but it’s not something you can change now.

      The only other option is to wallow in self-pity, or we can decide that we will make the necessary changes and move on. I think this is where mindfulness helps.

      Continuing to use ‘mindfulness techniques’ helps us separate the issues and live in the moment once we’re through the other end.

      It doesn’t take away the experience, but it gives us a different take on our experiences, so that we get to change the ending, even if we can’t change the beginning or the middle bits.

      It’s also doesn’t get those others off the hook. A deed done, no matter the deed is noted. Your parents must reconcile their deeds.

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