Sadly, on an unconscious level, those of us who have been abused may not always equate that others too may perhaps have also been abused, or if they are aware, they may refuse to acknowledge it. Perhaps acknowledging someone else being abused, will impact how we see our own abuse.
Perhaps we’re only seeing what we want to see because it’s easier, that way we don’t have to deal with other people’s abuse only our own. How we feel towards other people who have been abused, may never match how we feel about our own abuse and what we’ve had to deal with, but no matter how much abuse we or others have been subjected to, abuse is abuse.
Emotionally, we will always be affected. No abuse is acceptable. The hard part for many is recognising that we have been abused. We tend to recognise abuse through other people’s experiences, but don’t always equate abuse back to ourselves and our experiences, unless someone points it out to us.
But perhaps if more of us were able to recognise and acknowledge other people’s struggles through abuse, we would be more inclined to understand that we’re not the only ones. When it comes to families, where one sibling has been abused, other siblings will either be affected by their sibling’s abuse, or they will have been abused themselves.