It’s easy to think we have control, but then when we look at the bigger picture, we come to realise we have little control at all. It’s only when we look back that we see the pattern of events that have shaped the decisions we’ve made that leads us to know that someone else has been in the driving seat.
But although others may have the upper-hand, it’s never too late to do something about it. As my blogs show we can change at any age and at any time. We just have to want to. It’s also something we may be driven to, when we hit rock bottom, enough to make those crucial changes.
We can work through personal individual scenarios and circumstances and I believe we can all change. We can be in the driving seat if we choose to be, but fundamentally we have to walk away from whoever is holding us back.
The problem can sometimes be that where more than one family member is involved and we have children to consider, it makes our job and decision to walk away that little bit harder. I note my own circumstances and life when I talk about that.
And where we still want to do what’s right, sadly others don’t think they need to. I’m not sure why family members often feel it’s their right to conduct themselves in the way they often do. They may have the right with their own children, but not with another child who isn’t their own.
As parents, it’s our job to make sure we’re in the driving seat and if we’re not, we must work on that. Where we’re not in the driving seat, we must choose how we handle the situation and not be afraid to speak out, or walk away.
Walking away although it seems final, realistically it’s often the only option if we want to break the cycle of what I see as abuse, but sadly that’s not without its repercussions.