It’s easy to think we have control, but then when we look at the bigger picture, we come to realise we have little control, or no control at all. It is often only when we look back that we see the pattern of decisions that have been made for us that makes us realise someone else has been in the driving seat.
But although others may have had the upper-hand, it’s never too late to do something about it. We can change at any time. It’s also something we may be driven to, enough to make those crucial changes. We can work through personal individual scenarios and circumstances and we can all change. We can be in the driving seat, but we must walk away from whoever is holding us back.
The problem can sometimes be that where more than one family member is involved and we have children to consider, it makes our job and decision to walk away that little bit harder. I note my own circumstances and life when I talk about that. Where we’re not in the driving seat, we must choose how we handle the situation and not be afraid to speak out, or walk away.
Walking away although it seems final, realistically it’s often the only option if we want to break the cycle of what can be abuse, but sadly that isn’t without its repercussions.