Inflexible thinking

There are those who genuinely live with difficulties in accepting change, shifting thoughts, making transitions and who demonstrate forms of inflexibility.

Those inflexible patterns become part of us, they’re what we know and what we’re comfortable with. Inflexibility or ‘rigid thinking’ as it’s known comes about when an individual is unable to consider alternative thoughts on their current circumstances, unable to consider different viewpoints and have difficulty finding innovative solutions to problems.

They will cling to their usual preconceptions and generalizations and may even react with hostility towards others, if they feel challenged in any way or have to change. Past experiences around abuse or hostility may sometimes be responsible.

It’s not always abuse or hostility that brings about inflexibility. Bad parenting may also be responsible. People with inflexible thinking will continue to base their beliefs on previous thoughts that don’t take into account new circumstances, or new issues. New situations and changing circumstances may often seem daunting.

Sadly, as they continue to rely on familiar thought patterns, they will miss the points being expressed because they’re applying old thoughts to new circumstances, with missed opportunities and disappointments being part of the bigger picture.

Relationships will eventually become strained. Because people deal with inflexible thinking, they prefer to walk a familiar path where they literally don’t have to come out of their comfort zone to do it.

But perhaps we must flexible on our inflexibility and throw a little bit of ‘being proactive’ in for good measure.

15 Sep, 2014

4 thoughts on “Inflexible thinking

  1. You’ve just described my daughter to a “T.” She especially gets hostile and angry when she doesn’t get what she wants.

    We need to learn to accept things the way they happen and not get our panties in a wad.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I agree. Our lives would be far less complicated and less stressful if we learned to accept the way things happen.

      After a while the effort we put in by becoming hostile and angry becomes futile. Of course each case is different; sometimes the way we think and what we put out there isn’t always so straight forward. Sometimes we don’t always have the ability or the know-how.

      It would be easier if we learned to stand back so that we at least don’t become hostile and angry. That in itself doesn’t help.

  2. This has been what I’ve been stuck in for most of my life! I learned a lot about surviving but not a whole lot about living.

    It makes perfect sense now as to why people don’t like changes. Once you get used to being in your comfort zone it’s very hard to think outside the box as people say. I think this may also be what causes most of the troubles in the world because people only want to think a certain way and they expect everyone else to think the same way!

    I just find myself at an older age trying to learn how to think differently so I can actually live for a change. I myself don’t deal with change very well, but I never had the chance to deal with things normally, so it’s a painful process!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes it can be a painful process. When you live one way all your life and you come to change the way you live, it can take some getting used to!

      If you can try to see change as a gradual process, the concept of change gets easier. There are certain things we voluntarily choose to change and there are certain things we have no control over, they just happen.

      Change is inevitable. It’s not something we can avoid so it’s better to try to accept it. When we’re able to think outside the box it feels easier. I am sure that if we consider the different views about things like change, I am sure we will adapt to change better over time.

      We must try to be flexible in how we view our circumstances and the world.

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