Inflexible thinking

There are people who genuinely live with difficulties in accepting change, shifting thoughts, making transitions and who demonstrate forms of inflexibility. Inflexible patterns will become part of us when we fail to demonstrate forms of flexibility. We know what we know and what we’re comfortable with.

Inflexibility or ‘rigid thinking patterns’ as it’s also known, comes about when an individual is unable to consider alternative thoughts to their current thinking, or are unable to consider different viewpoints and have difficulty finding innovative solutions to problems.

They will cling to their usual preconceptions and generalisations and may even react with hostility if they feel challenged in any way, or have to change their thinking. Past experiences around abuse or hostility may sometimes be responsible.

But it’s not always abuse or hostility that brings about inflexibility. Bad parenting can also be the culprit. Children with inflexible thinking, will be adults with inflexible thinking, who will base their beliefs on previous thoughts that don’t take into account new circumstances, or new issues. New situations and changing circumstances are also responsible.

As we continue to rely on familiar thought patterns, we will miss new points being expressed because we’re applying old thoughts to current circumstances. We may miss out on seeing the bigger picture. Relationships will become strained.

Those who deal with inflexible thinking will stick to the familiar and will never leave their comfort zone. Sadly, they will miss out on opportunities, relationships and experiences if they don’t strive to stretch out of their inflexible minds.

15 Sep, 2014

4 thoughts on “Inflexible thinking

  1. You’ve just described my daughter to a “T.” She especially gets hostile and angry when she doesn’t get what she wants.

    We need to learn to accept things the way they happen and not get our panties in a wad.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I agree. Our lives would be far less complicated and less stressful if we learned to accept the way things happen.

      After a while the effort we put in by becoming hostile and angry becomes futile. Of course each case is different; sometimes the way we think and what we put out there isn’t always so straight forward. Sometimes we don’t always have the ability or the know-how.

      It would be easier if we learned to stand back so that we at least don’t become hostile and angry. That in itself doesn’t help.

  2. This has been what I’ve been stuck in for most of my life! I learned a lot about surviving but not a whole lot about living.

    It makes perfect sense now as to why people don’t like changes. Once you get used to being in your comfort zone it’s very hard to think outside the box as people say. I think this may also be what causes most of the troubles in the world because people only want to think a certain way and they expect everyone else to think the same way!

    I just find myself at an older age trying to learn how to think differently so I can actually live for a change. I myself don’t deal with change very well, but I never had the chance to deal with things normally, so it’s a painful process!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes it can be a painful process. When you live one way all your life and you come to change the way you live, it can take some getting used to!

      If you can try to see change as a gradual process, the concept of change gets easier. There are certain things we voluntarily choose to change and there are certain things we have no control over, they just happen.

      Change is inevitable. It’s not something we can avoid so it’s better to try to accept it. When we’re able to think outside the box it feels easier. I am sure that if we consider the different views about things like change, I am sure we will adapt to change better over time.

      We must try to be flexible in how we view our circumstances and the world.

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