There are those who demonstrate forms of inflexibility, and genuinely live with difficulties over accepting change, shifting thoughts, making transitions. Those inflexible patterns become part of them, they’re what they know and are comfortable with.
Inflexibility or ‘rigid thinking’ comes about when an individual is unable to consider alternative thoughts on their current circumstances, unable to consider different viewpoints and has difficulty finding innovative solutions to problems.
They will cling to their usual preconceptions and generalisations and may even react with hostility towards others if they feel challenged in any way or have change forced on them. Past experiences around abuse or hostility may sometimes be responsible.
But it’s not always abuse or hostility that brings about inflexibility. Bad parenting may also be responsible. People with inflexible thinking will continue to base their beliefs on old views that don’t take into account new circumstances. New situations and changing circumstances may often seem daunting.
As they continue to rely on familiar thought patterns, they will miss opportunities and experience disappointment. Relationships will become strained. They may prefer to walk a familiar path which means they don’t have to come out of their comfort zone.
So perhaps, where we are inflexible, we must learn to be flexible and at the same time throw a little bit of ‘being proactive’ in for good measure.