There are those who genuinely live with difficulties in accepting change, shifting thoughts, making transitions and who demonstrate forms of inflexibility.
Those inflexible patterns become part of us, they’re what we know and what we’re comfortable with. Inflexibility or ‘rigid thinking’ as it’s known comes about when an individual is unable to consider alternative thoughts on their current circumstances, unable to consider different viewpoints and have difficulty finding innovative solutions to problems.
They will cling to their usual preconceptions and generalizations and may even react with hostility towards others, if they feel challenged in any way or have to change. Past experiences around abuse or hostility may sometimes be responsible.
It’s not always abuse or hostility that brings about inflexibility. Bad parenting may also be responsible. People with inflexible thinking will continue to base their beliefs on previous thoughts that don’t take into account new circumstances, or new issues. New situations and changing circumstances may often seem daunting.
Sadly, as they continue to rely on familiar thought patterns, they will miss the points being expressed because they’re applying old thoughts to new circumstances, with missed opportunities and disappointments being part of the bigger picture.
Relationships will eventually become strained. Because people deal with inflexible thinking, they prefer to walk a familiar path where they literally don’t have to come out of their comfort zone to do it.
But perhaps we must flexible on our inflexibility and throw a little bit of ‘being proactive’ in for good measure.