We become who we are based upon our responses to events. Others may then observe our behaviour and assess our personality and the type of people we are on how we respond and react. I was always being judged.
Our responses come from a combination of habit and other predetermined reactions that stem from our environments and background. Although these are unique to us, they form part of who we are as people. When we’re consciously aware of our reasoning and why we do things, those reasons will enhance understanding of our learned behaviour.
But many of our thoughts will be determined through our unconscious thoughts. Those thoughts include experiences, unconscious feelings, unconscious issues, unconscious habits and complexes, anything we’ve had to experience that make up our behaviour. Everything we’re not consciously aware of in our everyday lives, will continue to influence our everyday responses and behaviour.
It will always be up to us to acknowledge our actions. It is up to us to understand ourselves and to put ourselves out there in a way that is appropriate. There must be continual understanding, not just on what people say, but understanding behind why they say what they say.
It is only when we come to understand the person behind the response, will we understand why they have initiated the response in the way they have. Therefore, we must have and be in control of our unconscious thoughts, because it is the unconscious thoughts that feed the conscious thoughts.
When we ignore our issues that we haven’t yet dealt with on an unconscious level, we will always be limited to our response and judged by what we say.