It’s one thing being shown or being told what to do, when we’re struggling to understand how to do something, but it’s another thing being controlled by others and yet sadly that is exactly what happens.
It’s almost expected, or we allow it to happen unconsciously because we don’t know how to say no. Any decisions or outcomes in our life should be ours to make and yet in reality they’re not. We conform to other people’s decisions, even though it’s not the life we want.
No one has the right to take or have control over another person’s life, whether it’s a parent child relationship, or a sibling relationship. Although childhood often teaches us how not to do things, living in an environment where control is constantly part of the equation, comes at a cost.
Unless we change how we perceive relationships that involve control, those relationships will never change or get better. Those who control must allow those they control to live their own lives and learn a different way to be.
For those of us who are on the receiving end of control, we must learn how to take control and learn to say no.