How we conduct ourselves in our personal life is important, but not everyone needs to know about our life.
Telling others about our life may open us up to judgments and criticism. The choices we make should be our concern, keeping us from the unnecessary opinions of others. As long as we’re okay with our choices and they have been thought through, it shouldn’t matter what others think.
It depends on the secret, but not all secrets we keep others will want to know about. By the nature of what secrets are, they can keep us fixated and can damage our mental and emotional health to the point of making us ill. But other times, there are things that we know about that are best kept with us.
Then there are secrets that end up making us behave in ways that causes harm to others and ourselves, those secrets shouldn’t be secret at all. Secrets around addiction to drugs and alcohol, as well as infidelities to spouses and friends, shouldn’t be secret.
But keeping secrets says a lot about us. Secrets mean we’re less likely to be inclusive, less likely to be forward thinking and assertive. It’s not a good idea.