Leading by example

Through confidence, we set the standards for ourselves, for our families. Through confidence, we demonstrate what we believe in and what we know, through many positive examples. We lead by example, we show others our way of doing things.

Through positive examples, we build trust and through trust we let others know that we stand by our word. We’re respectful of others, we’re also open-minded on what others have to say. We’re happy to compliment people when they’re doing well, because it’s right and because there is no reason not to.

With families, we must lead by example, so we set the foundations. When we show them a better way, they will have little reason not to want to follow our example.

For ourselves, when we lead by example, we call the shots on how we want our life to go, instead of someone else calling the shots for us on how they want us to live our lives.

24 Jul, 2015

8 thoughts on “Leading by example

  1. I agree and think leading by example is a very important aspect of our lives, both personally and professionally.

    If we don’t and we adopt that age old ‘do as I say not as I do’ attitude, then that only shows a very poor role model and is likely to back-fire. Leading by example, as you rightly say, builds trust and without that our relationships aren’t really worth having.

    1. Thank you. Yes it’s something we all know to do, but not all of us will. I think your response sums up this blog nicely.

      I believe it’s the most important thing we will ever do.

  2. Yes that is definitely what I have been figuring out with people like my daughter, who doesn’t really know how to do a lot of things.

    She has lived in a very sheltered world, which has been good for keeping her safe, but it hasn’t allowed her to have a lot of the life experiences most other people have by her age. She may have CP, but that doesn’t mean she can’t do a lot of things that other people do!

    It just mean she has to find alternative ways to get things done, which I think would be a great thing for her. I just feel that she’s missing out on so much. I have been really trying to open up with her to share some of what I have really been through, so she’ll know I’ve had my own issues to deal with, as she has had hers.

    People too often equate CP with mental retardation, which isn’t always the case. She may have physical limitations but that doesn’t mean she can’t get things done in her own way. I’ve had to spend a lot more time learning how to get things done while working around some of the very serious mental health issues I have to deal with!

    I think the more she sees that I can do that I will be leading by example to help her have a life!

    1. Thanks Randy. If your daughter sees you getting on and coming through your own mental health issues, that will show her that she can work through her Cerebral Palsy issues too.

      I’m not sure how much we comprehend through other people’s issues. From what I know it tends to put people off. From my own experience, it’s often our actions that have the greater impact and influence on other people, especially our children.

      This is why it’s important for us lead by our own examples, as long as those examples don’t serve to make our children insecure.

  3. There are going to be some moments of adversity when we try to lead with integrity, it’s not always easy. But the only way to lead is the right way because so many people are watching.

    People remember how you walk through this life before they remember your name.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes we have long memories; too long I fear… particularly the memories where we notch up resentment and fail to forgive. You’re absolutely right.

  4. As parents if we want our children to be good people, we need to be people of integrity ourselves. We can’t tell them not to behave a certain way if we are not behaving ourselves.

    They won’t let us get away with it.

    1. Awww thanks Maria. Your response is exactly how I would have responded if I were responding to this blog.

      I think you’re right, children are more likely to follow a parent’s integrity, if they lead by example in that respect. Without paving the way forward, I doubt that will ever happen. We spend a lifetime learning from and copying our parents.

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