We want to co-exist in perfect harmony and want to be the perfect fit in our relationships. We unconsciously want these things, expect others to compromise and yet we come to compromise very little, with some of us not choosing to compromise at all.
So how do we reach that compromise?
Being open helps us compromise. Being open allows us to be honest in what we’re asking and what we’re expecting back from others. The dynamics of our relationships are very much the catalyst of how we unconsciously choose to communicate, how we interact with others.
From the age of 7 those patterns are already formed. Our upbringing, our environment, the family dynamics, everything we emotionally have to deal with, all play a part in how we choose to interact and whether we will compromise. If we are encouraged to look for compromise in our childhood, we will be more compromising as adults.
Because we’re not always taught how to compromise, we will unconsciously choose to ignore it. Although relationships should be based on compromise, we must never compromise on bad behaviour. By bad behaviour, I mean living without integrity or a moral compass, using sarcasm or ego as a communication tool, not being honest and using words that belittle or set out to hurt. There can be no compromise on those.
We should all want to communicate with integrity, sincerity, truthfulness and decency. When we learn to incorporate all of those things, there will be absolutely no reason for us not to compromise.