We listen on our own terms. We listen, not to understand or to hear, but to jump at the opportunity for us to speak again, whether that means agreeing to what’s being said, or by putting in our penny’s worth.
We take conversations the way we want them to go. It’s all about us. But perhaps we should be thinking about our connections and how when we superficially listen and we superficially connect. When we speak, there’s an element of us wanting to be heard, for others to crave and admire what we do, as much as we crave appreciation and admiration for ourselves.
There is part of us that wants to inspire. Perhaps we’ve struggled to get ourselves heard growing up. Perhaps no one listened, now we want others to listen, or expect others to listen to us; perhaps we’ve struggled with confidence issues and now with this new-found confidence, we want others to listen; perhaps it matters to us what other people think.
Perhaps we also want to be accepted, we want validation on our thoughts; perhaps we never had that as a child and we crave it now. There are many reasons why, but the biggest reason we need to listen, is that we can never be close without connecting on a soulful level.
Although listening is about letting someone else do the talking, we must work from a soulful level, because not to means we will not only fail to listen, but will fail to deeply connect or bring real purpose to our life or relationships.