If you’ve been instrumental in trying to help someone who has been through trauma, or it’s your own trauma, it’s easy to feel guilty that you should have been able to bring the rightful conclusion so that everyone is happy.
When you know there’s nothing you can do to change the final outcome, then it’s time to let go. With trauma, the final outcome may not be the one you want or the one you worked so hard to get past.
When dealing with trauma, not everyone will understand your ending. Because of that it would be very easy for you to live with the guilt of not having achieved the outcome you want. Others who have brought about trauma, are often the reason why, you may never achieve the rightful outcome.
But the truth is what’s done is done. It’s not something we can always change, therefore there’s no point in holding on, or wishing you had a different ending.
There’s a time when it becomes obvious it’s right to let go of the guilt. It helps us avoid illness and that’s a big plus and it’s the right thing to do.