How we deal with our circumstances usually determines how heavy or light the load will be. Our perspective and attitude determines how large or small that load will be, but we mustn’t allow our baggage to weigh us down.
Unfortunately, we not only carry our own baggage, but we also unconsciously opt to carry other people’s baggage too, in the form of resentment and anger, as if their resentment and anger is our fault.
In other circumstances, we allow other people’s decisions to become ours. Even if their decisions become ours, we carry their decisions as if we’ve made those decisions ourselves. We allow what people say to cloud our judgment, making us feel bad and in some cases, ruining our lives.
We’re not responsible for other people, their decisions, or their happiness; but we emotionally carry them as if we are. It would take me many years to understand the correlation that ‘other people’s stuff’ wasn’t mine to carry; it was their guilt that had no where else to go, but it was never my guilt to carry.
Other people may play the victim, or use the guilt trip to make us feel bad, in some cases to get us to do what they want. If we disagree, they may try to elicit an emotional reaction from us because we’re not doing what they want, but we must remain steadfast and not allow that to happen.
What they don’t understand is that their issues will always be their issues, whether they try to offload their issues on us or not. Choose to lighten the load anyway.