How we deal with our circumstances usually determines how heavy or light the load will be. Our perspective and attitude determine how large or small that load will be, but we mustn’t allow our baggage to weigh us down.
Unfortunately, we not only carry our own baggage, but we also unconsciously opt to carry other people’s baggage too, in the form of resentment and anger, as if their resentment and anger is our fault.
In other circumstances, we allow other people’s issues to become ours. Even if their decisions do become ours, we carry their issues, as if they’re our own. We allow what people say to cloud our judgment, making us feel bad and in some cases, ruining our lives.
We’re not responsible for other people, their issues, their decisions, or their happiness; but we emotionally carry them as if we are. It takes us many years to understand the correlation that ‘other people’s stuff’ isn’t always ours to carry: it’s misplaced guilt that has no where else to go, but it’s not our guilt to carry.
Other people may play the victim, or use the guilt trip to make us feel bad, in some cases to get us to do what they want. If we disagree, they may try to elicit an emotional reaction from us because we’re not doing what they want, but we must remain steadfast.
What they don’t understand is that their issues will always be their issues, whether they try to offload their issues on us or not. Choose to lighten the load anyway.