When we have dealt with our past, we will emotionally and spiritually grow and that means we will start to live in the present.
Living in the present, means we’ll be emotionally happier, more content with ourselves and happier with our lives. It also means we’re less likely to want to revisit our past, or reside there. Living in the present, also means we work from a different psychological space than those who are stuck, or live in the past.
But whether our relationship is with a parent, spouse or friend, it is important we emotionally move on together. Being stuck in the past isn’t always something others will understand, but for those living in the present, it will become evidently clear.
When anyone is mentally stuck and they’re living in the past, they will have difficulty coming to terms with the fact that others have emotionally moved on. It also means they will see others who have got their life together as a potential threat to what is an already fragile relationship.
Being stuck in the past, means it’s time to stop living in denial, because that is what living in the past means. Living in the past means you’re not willing to confront your issues. But living in the past is more than that: it not only stops you from thinking in the present, it stops you from living in the present.
Although our experiences should help us confront our issues and change the way we see and live our life, it’s not right making others the scapegoat, when it’s us with the issues.