When it comes to us looking after ourselves, it’s a balance between work life and our personal life and is definitely not as easy as it looks. In reality, it takes many years for us to hone and fully understand how to look after ourselves and even then some of us won’t get it right.
Looking after ourselves means we not only have to learn how to become independent for the first time, but we also have to look after our emotional and physical health, so that we’re not constantly dealing with illness. Emotions play their part and are instrumental in us staying well.
We should learn how to delegate so that we only take on as much as know we can cope with and ask for help when we need it. We must also learn how to deal with stressful situations, learn how to communicate, as well as learning how to deal with issues that have the potential to blow up and create even more stress.
Learning how to say ‘no,’ instead of being swayed by other people’s opinions are instrumental in us looking after ourselves. We must learn to stand back so that we’re able to better assess and make decisions on stressful situations, as well as look for and seek out a healthier lifestyle.
Lifestyle has always been my top priority. Without a more structured lifestyle I know I know I would struggle. Our lifestyle has to be instrumental, because it determines how well we cope with things. The more organised we are, the easier our lives will be.
Even if the foundations put in place aren’t initially used by our children once they leave home, I believe it’s something they can and will go back to as and when they’re mature and ready to settle into a more balanced lifestyle.
Children tend to have to work through the usual process first. The process you and I went through when we were their age.