Our emotional state is often reflected in our body language. Observations show that negative thoughts reverberate through our emotions affecting our behaviour, our thinking and our body sensations. Low self-esteem also impacts on life and how we choose to live it.
Having Cerebral Palsy and low self-esteem in school meant I underachieved. When we don’t have the support from home or school it’s easy to fall behind. I couldn’t catch up, nor could I compete. Even with explanations I still didn’t understand.
For some we will go on to over compensate low self-esteem by relentless hard work, coupled with the fear of failing, never seeing our own accomplishments even though we may have achieved greatly, or not believing that the results we go on to accomplish, come from our own strength and skills.
Then there are the personal relationships, the self-consciousness, being over-sensitive or unable to accept constructive criticism that could help us achieve greatly. We may end up being the life and soul of any party, appearing confident and in control of our life, whereas the truth is one of us being oversensitive and insecure.
We may also live in fear of rejection if we don’t appear to fit in. Looking back I had some, but not all of these traits, but I believe that as children we don’t see a lot of what we understand as adults. We’re not equipped with life’s skills.
Realistically, what 9 year old see themselves as having low self-esteem, let alone understand what that really means?