I understand that in life sometimes we have to make decisions or choices that family or society expect us to make, but do those choices fit in with the choices we should be making for ourselves?
It all comes down to what we learn as children. That if our parents don’t help their children make decisions or choices in their childhood, it will rarely happen in adulthood. If we’re given choices as a child, we inherit the tools that help us through our adolescent and adult years without having to struggle.
The benefits of giving children choices are immeasurable. Giving children choices allows them to understand how to make their choices, without being afraid to make a choice. Having to decide helps them problem solve, builds their self-esteem, makes them into individuals who will always hold themselves to account.
Making their own choices also allows them to take control of those choices and their lives and gives them a feeling of empowerment that the decisions they make are theirs and right for them. Whether decisions are made subconsciously or consciously, life revolves around those final choices. Making decisions that others would like us to make that aren’t our decisions, makes for a very unhappy life.
When we make choices, we take ownership of those choices. Unfortunately, with choices sometimes comes sacrifice, particularly when we make one choice over another, but having made that choice means that we are ultimately responsible for that decision.
That said, that choice then becomes our choice and that makes our choice right.