Mentality effects change

Too often, we operate on the assumption that someone else is the cause of a problem, and fail to think about our own behaviour, or consider that our mentality can effect change. If we consistently fall into this trap, we will fail to effect any positive change. It’s wrong to shine the torch on others when the problem may often lie with us.

It is our mindset, made up of thoughts, beliefs and expectations, which is the lens through which we see and think about things. Our life experiences affect how we will live and the decisions we will make every day.

According to cognitive neuroscientists, we are conscious of only about five per cent of cognitive activity, so most of our decisions, actions, emotions, and behaviour depends on the ninety-five per cent of brain activity that goes beyond our conscious thinking. (Source:

Our experiences and childhood conditioning are the reasons we follow the same unconscious patterns and behaviours, and why we fail to make any positive changes.

When we live our lives without consciously giving thought to our behaviour, our mindset, based on our previous experiences, will remain stagnant. It is because we hear and repeat the same negative stories from our past over and over, that the same negative narratives are reinforced, but it won’t be the case for all.

Whilst that happens, we can never effect positive mental change.

23 Dec, 2018

4 thoughts on “Mentality effects change

  1. One of the many expressions from AA, ‘nothing changes if nothing changes,’ means that things will always stay the same unless we work on changing them.

    In my case, I have to try to avoid ending up going on autopilot, where I just go through the motions of making it through the day, but don’t think a whole lot about falling back into old behaviors.

    I have to focus on staying in the present and dealing with my issues today, rather than try to deal with them in the ways that I always used to, which weren’t effective.

    They may allow me to survive, but I want to do more than just exist like I have been and finally be able to enjoy living for a change.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, unless we consciously live in the moment, we’re unconsciously living our lives.

      We live our lives without thought or question. Autopilot is how we live our lives. The ‘AA’ is right, ‘nothing changes if nothing changes,’ in other words we can’t have change without change.

      We must be prepared to work on change and then change. Having a positive mentality will always effective positive change.

  2. Randy’s comment from AA is absolutely right. We have to think about our experiences and resultant conditioning and know that we can change things.

    What consumes our minds controls our lives and we deserve change and positivity.

    1. Yes, and your first paragraph is right. We must think about our experiences and how our experiences shape our personalities and behaviour.

      As I have proved through my own experiences, we can set to change our life. No one has to continue to live with neglect, abuse or negativity.

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