Too often, we operate on the assumption that someone else is the cause of a problem, and fail to think about our own behaviour, or consider that our mentality can effect change. If we consistently fall into this trap, we will fail to effect any positive change. It’s wrong to shine the torch on others when the problem may often lie with us.
It is our mindset, made up of thoughts, beliefs and expectations, which is the lens through which we see and think about things. Our life experiences affect how we will live and the decisions we will make every day.
According to cognitive neuroscientists, we are conscious of only about five per cent of cognitive activity, so most of our decisions, actions, emotions, and behaviour depends on the ninety-five per cent of brain activity that goes beyond our conscious thinking. (Source: http://www.simplifyinginterfaces.com)
Our experiences and childhood conditioning are the reasons we follow the same unconscious patterns and behaviours, and why we fail to make any positive changes.
When we live our lives without consciously giving thought to our behaviour, our mindset, based on our previous experiences, will remain stagnant. It is because we hear and repeat the same negative stories from our past over and over, that the same negative narratives are reinforced, but it won’t be the case for all.
Whilst that happens, we can never effect positive mental change.