We work on assumptions that someone else is always the problem, but since we fail to think about our own behaviour and that mentality effects change, we will fail to effect any positive change. It’s wrong and damaging to shine the torch on others when the problems lie with us.
It is the mindset that is made up of thoughts, beliefs and expectations, which is the lens through which we see and think about things. It is our life experiences that affect how we live and the decisions we make every day. And where we’re responsible for our mentality, making our lives and our relationships better, we don’t.
Ninety-five percent of our brain activity is beyond conscious awareness and is the reason we don’t think about our behaviour. Numerous cognitive neuroscientists have conducted studies that reveal only 5% of our cognitive thinking that includes our emotions, actions, decisions and behaviour is conscious. The remaining 95% is generated in a non-conscious manner.
But our experiences and childhood conditioning is the reason we follow the same unconscious patterns and experiences, think about the same things and why we will fail to make any positive changes.
When we unconsciously live our lives without consciously giving thought to our intentions, our mindset based on our previous experiences, will continue to play out. It is because we hear and repeat the same negative past stories over and over that the same negative narrative is reinforced.
Instead we must deal with our issues, and bring our thinking into the present, because only then will our changed mentality effect positive change.