Too often, we operate on the assumption that someone else is always the problem, and fail to think about our own behaviour, or consider that mentality effects change. If we consistently fall in this trap, we will fail to effect any positive change. It’s wrong to shine the torch on others when the problem often lies with us.
It is our mindset, made up of thoughts, beliefs and expectations, which is the lens through which we see and think about things. Our life experiences affect how we will live and the decisions we will make every day.
Ninety-five percent of our brain activity is beyond our conscious thinking and is the reason we don’t think about our behaviour or give thought to our intentions. (Source: http://www.simplifyinginterfaces.com) According to cognitive neuroscientists, we are conscious of only about 5 percent of cognitive activity, so most of our decisions, actions, emotions, and behaviour depends on the 95 percent of brain activity that goes beyond our conscious thinking.
Our experiences and childhood conditioning are the reasons we follow the same unconscious patterns and experiences, and why we fail to make any positive changes.
When we unconsciously live our lives without consciously giving thought to our behaviour, our mindset, based on our previous experiences, will remain stagnant. It is because we hear and repeat the same negative stories from our past over and over that the same negative narratives are reinforced.
Whilst that happens, we can never effect positive mental change.