Unhappy people tend to reflect outwardly their inward thoughts. We hold on to old grudges as if our life depended on it, afraid to let go because letting go means we’ll have to face a new life away from what we’ve known, even though what we’ve known isn’t how we want to live.
The routines we follow imprison us in this continued life, we can’t let go of. It’s an existence, it’s how we roll and not something we stop to question. Unconsciously, we know it’s not right, but it’s something we’re not prepared to change. For others on the receiving end, it’s exactly what needs to be changed.
It’s also not unique, in fact it’s not unique at all. We’ve probably all done it, some of us will continue to do it. Outwardly, as we continue to reflect our unconscious thoughts, we do so without question and although we don’t like how we are, we’re too stubborn to question it, even though we know our behaviour hurts us and others along the way too.
Perhaps then we need to come to understand that our outward behaviour is only a reflection of our internal thoughts and internal thoughts and understandings can always be changed. We must come to see that a change in mind-set is a positive change for new opportunities and not some kind of threat. A threat is a threat if we’re inclined to see it that way.
People tend to feel more secure in themselves when they come to understand that change is a time for new opportunities. Unfortunately, if we see change as something negative our external behaviour will always reflect internal negative thinking.
An appetite for change can always be developed, even if it’s not present. It’s all about mind-set and mind-set can always be changed.