A friend of mine brought up a valid comment in one of his responses to my blog and wanted to write further about it.
‘It doesn’t make sense for someone to suffer in front of me, when I should mirror what that person feels, especially if we’re in a relationship together. We should be joined at the hip for better or worse.’
Yes, it doesn’t make sense and we should want to mirror what another person feels. After all isn’t that what relationships are? All relationships can fall by the wayside, particularly in times of stress and interference, but where a disability takes precedence, it becomes much harder, others must work with us.
But in any relationship, we should want to mirror what another person feels. We should also want to be joined at the hip, help make someone else’s life better, easier and for others to do the same for us.
It’s easy for us to become self-absorbed and not think about others, their needs or what they deal with. Sadly, our experiences don’t always bring us to a place that ties in with where we should be emotionally in the present moment and perhaps that’s the point.
Where experiences produce resentment that’s when we become self-absorbed and fail to mirror those all important relationships.