Being loyal is something we should invest in, not only because it’s right and we never know when we need others to be loyal to us, but because we identify with or support that person or cause.
Other people should want to support us back, but they don’t, often because they have their own agendas. Misplaced loyalty if allowed to continue, can make a person feel disillusioned with their circumstances, themselves and with their lives.
Loyalty is something we place in others and where loyalty isn’t acknowledged or respected, then we’re taken advantage of and betrayed. It’s a misplaced trust that over a period of time becomes clear isn’t reciprocated.
Misplaced or misguided loyalties can also happen within organisations, leaving us compromised and disappointed. Unfortunately, misplaced loyalty if continually repeated, can leave us questioning the very reason why we continue to put ourselves out there, being loyal to those who have a different agenda.
There’s one thing about being loyal to someone who isn’t loyal that’s bad enough, but choosing to remain silent is another, particularly when we know we’re hurting and we should speak out. When it comes to family or friends, where loyalty means equality, this may never materialise when it comes to misplaced loyalty.
Unfortunately, when it comes to misplaced loyalty, we will always continue to get hurt, unless we speak out, or choose to walk away. When we have to continually comprise just to fit into another person’s life, we will have no quality of life.