We model our behaviour on others and expect them to be as we are, but that’s neither realistic, nor how things should be.
We are as we are, they are as they are. Unfortunately, we want them to fit into how we see them, easier in some respects, but not realistic. We are all different and as such we must adapt to fit into other people’s lives.
We all come from different backgrounds, have different expectations, different experiences. We must accept that we’re different, that the way we are isn’t the way others are. We must work as a team without modelling our behaviour on others and expecting them to conform to the way we are.
We can work as a team and still have our differences. We must adapt. If someone’s behaviour is making us stressed or ill, then they must work to put that right, but friendships or relationships aren’t something should have to model.
We must always work at our relationships, be who we are without expecting or taking what we have for granted. That is how it tends to work.