As a follow on from my previous blog about why we worry; it’s not always possible not to depending on what we have to deal with. We can distract ourselves for a little while, so for that moment we have calm thoughts, but unless we know how to banish worries for good; inevitably those worries will come back.
The key to controlling anxiety and worry is to ask the questions that will help you understand more about what leads you to worry in the first place. I tend to ask myself questions that will help me change the way I perceive my worries.
Some of my questions are outlined below:
- Am I predicting bad things because they are uncertain or should I wait to see what the outcome might be?
- If I don’t have certainty, why do I need to worry? Things will work out how they’re supposed to.
- Why am I worrying over the things I can’t control? I can’t control them so what’s the point?
- Shouldn’t I be working through the problem, so that I will learn to cope better?
- If I continue to worry how will I ever break the cycle of worrying? I need to stop seeing worries as worries, but tasks to be undertaken.
We make life complicated. It’s important to create a calm and a worry free zone. Of course once we get the hang of learning to deal with worries, those worries will be dealt with as we go along.
A worry is negative, so being around negative people will only serve to make our worries bigger. It’s important to always make sure we’re around positive people.