We often learn more from negative emotions than we do positive ones, but I wouldn’t suggest anyone hold on to them.
They can be damaging to our health but over time, as we learn to accept we have negative emotions we can start to let go of the influence and hold they have over us and the pain and distress they cause. By accepting our emotions, we come to realise that our emotions are in fact real and valid.
This doesn’t mean we approve of either the distress or the events that lead up to them. We can have negative emotions without the need to carry, accept or be approving of them. When we come to understand that we just have to acknowledge and let those feelings in and accept them in that way, it doesn’t become such an impossible task to let go.
As we learn to accept we have negative emotions, we’re less likely to approve of them. We struggle because we unconsciously choose to hold on to our emotions. When we come to reconcile and move on, it’s easy to see how the issues we held on to were of such little consequence, but just couldn’t see that at the time.
Although our emotions are real, it’s often our reactions to those emotions that can make us feel worse. Learning to accept isn’t such an impossible task once we understand why. I usually stand back so that I’m looking at a complete picture and that allows me to make an informed choice on whether it’s important for me to let go.