When I was little, I used to negative self-talk so much I worried those things would happen. The negative self-talk was always there, it seemed to follow me like a shadow.
I didn’t realise that when we grow up with negativity around us, negative self-talk becomes our daily dialogue. I remember getting ready to go on holiday and not being able to sleep for weeks beforehand, because I was sure the plane was going to crash that if someone was ill, I was going to be ill too.
I know now we must find ways to talk ourselves out of our negative self-talk. Our realities are often very different to what we talk ourselves into. I went on holiday, the plane didn’t crash and I didn’t get ill either. We become fearful of many things, primarily the things we have no control over. It’s in those times we have a downer on ourselves.
We’re not born with negative inner-talk. Negative self-talk comes from negative situations that start in childhood and feed into our psyche that we have no control over and cannot always change until we learn how to.
Anywhere where we have negativity, we will have negative self-talk.