As a continuation from my last blog on negative self-talk, I believe without the confidence and self-esteem, it’s very easy to let negative self-talk in.
The following tips may help us become aware:
- Do we pull ourselves down constantly; particularly when someone pays us a compliment?
- Do we see ourselves as being intelligent?
- Do we think highly or even like ourselves?
- Are we happy with all that we have achieved?
- Are we repeating negative patterns so everything we see in our life is negative?
- We need to begin to look at and take everything out of our lives that we perceive as negative.
Negative self-talk stems from what we’re told as a child. It’s that little voice in our head that tells us what we are. We’re labelled. We may have done things that we’re spiteful as a child, but instead of those things being referred to as spiteful, we told ‘we’re spiteful,’ instead.
After a while what we’re told begins to stick. We believe we are all the things we’re told and as we approach adulthood, we continue to feed off those messages that bring us down and belittle us. All that we hear sews the seed of our negative self-talk.
If we have no support, ignored or criticised, we will begin to criticise ourselves. This is the most common cause of negative self-talk. I also believe that once we begin to change the way we perceive ourselves, we will begin to see the world in a more positive light.
Using Affirmations or talking to a Counsellor and re-addressing some of those negative thoughts will help change those negative thoughts into positive ones.