Negative people aren’t sociopaths or bullies, so I can understand others when they say they wouldn’t stay away, but having lived a life around negativity, I disagree. Too much negativity is toxic if it’s not nipped in the bud.

For those who actively choose to stay around negativity they need to understand a person’s vulnerability and why they are negative. Trying to deal with continual negativity can leave us traumatised.

When it comes to us being negative, we can’t expect others to fall into line with how we are. There is only so much empathy others will have, before they give up. For anyone dealing with negativity, it is important they explore and understand why they feel negative.

Negativity is a form of hopelessness, a sadness and irritability, but feeling irritable isn’t great because it can create anxiety. Although negativity isn’t easy to brush aside, it’s something we can all work to change.

Giving yourself time and finding an understanding on why you feel negative is something you can help yourself with. We can all help ourselves. Negativity can manifest itself into something bigger, if not nipped in the bud.

Long-term negativity can turn into depression. Events such as losing a job, losing a loved one, our inability to cope and control our circumstances can be its trigger.

8 Jul, 2019

4 thoughts on “Negativity

  1. My parents were always very negative people which made our childhood a living hell. It’s no wonder I kept trying to have the same type of relationships, with women who were angry and negative, usually blaming their problems on me, like my mother used to.

    I never quite understood why they bothered having children together, seeing as they made us feel like we made their lives so horrible. They constantly argued about how miserable they were together, but never did very much to change things.

    It’s no wonder I felt so worthless, but I finally decided last year that I didn’t deserve to be treated badly and have worked on changing my life for the better.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, you live what you know, but you know something better now Randy, so that’s good. You know what it feels like to live with and be around negativity, but you can change that now.

      I love that you say that last year you came to the conclusion that you didn’t deserve to be ‘treated badly.’ I also love that you’re choosing to change your life for the better.

      I’m with you on that. You deserve better.

  2. It is incredibly difficult to deal with a negative person and their mood can bring us down too. Walking away from these people is not always an option, so I try to understand their negativity.

    There is usually a reason for their negativity, even though the person involved may not be aware or may not wish to accept the reason, but in my experience, dealing with it is aways fraught with difficulty and usually arguments.

    1. Thanks. I understand your comment about walking away from negativity is not always an option.

      Throughout my life I have always been faced with other people’s negativity and have chosen to distance myself.

      Looking back it was always the right thing to do, but agree it can be incredibly difficult, particularly when their negativity is made about you.

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