If like me you’ve gone through life having had things done to you without so much as an apology for those things, then we need to think differently.
Perhaps we’ve got to get better at accepting the things we cannot change and put less energy into expecting or fighting for an apology we know we’re never going to get from those who simply choose not to offer an apology.
If it’s a one-off that becomes more acceptable than something done to that’s repeated over a period of years. But not having an apology doesn’t make what anyone does right or release them from the responsibility of what they’ve done. Instead, it allows us to provide ourselves with the kindness we deserve so that we can legitimise and understand the truth behind our experiences.
Being able to practice awareness in the absence of an apology, means we’re less likely to need or look for validation on what we know to be true. And although it’s hard to move forward without others accepting their part in the process, we must learn to relax, knowing an apology may never be forthcoming.
Trusting ourselves and knowing that what we feel is deserving of kindness and that our truth is justified and valid, should be enough for us to start the healing process.