Not enough listening and too much talking. Our job isn’t so much to give our opinion, but to listen instead, or better still, allow the other person to ask for an opinion, without us thinking it’s our given right to give one, let alone stand in judgment.
Perhaps that’s where we’re going wrong. We assume we have a given right, rather than think about what’s right or what the other person wants. To assume is to limit the mind. To assume is to accept without proof, neither of which will help us in the longer term.
Whether we’re a parent, teacher, or work in another professional capacity, it’s up to us to make sure we work with an open mind. We will never learn to communicate or understand other people’s wants or needs without listening effectively, or even listening at all. We can assume and think we know, but we can never know.
Unfortunately, when life revolves around our own wants and needs, we make our life about us and that’s the mode we live in most of the time. We don’t stop to think about others, we assume because we’re talking they must listen, when the reality is they’re talking, but it’s us who should listen.
The world is made up of those who are full of their own self-importance. What they say usually goes, or matters and what others say, often pales into insignificance. We need to perhaps think about and put others first, listen more to what they have to say and come to understand what they expect from us. Communication is key.
When we take our ego out of the equation, we will learn to identify with people more on a soulful level. That means talking less, listening more and using mediation as a communication tool.