From the outset, nothing is as it seems. We look at people and families and think they have it all; the friendship, the interaction, the love and support, but when we really get to know what goes on, nothing is as it seems.
As our minds begin to form a picture of something we see, behind closed doors there will always be other explanations. Perhaps part of our unconscious thoughts, crave that scenario for ourselves because we don’t have it, or perhaps we think they have more than we have and want some of what they’ve got.
On the flip-side of course there will always be other explanations, coupled with our own misinterpretations on what we see. Other circumstances may also change the way we see things. Unfortunately, most of everyone has had motives for doing something. The decisions they made we’re usually based on their own self-interest.
When we use our intent for our own personal gain and others are led to believe our intent is solely to help others, things are not as they seem. Perhaps then, we should be completely transparent so that others understand our motives. An ego and alter ego, a motive, anything that takes us away from being who we really are, will automatically change the way others see us.
I work with, what you see is what you get with no hidden extras and nothing taken out. Perhaps if more of us could work with the same philosophy and take out some of those personality traits, things will start to appear as they are.