Perhaps we need to simply convey empathy, compassion and tolerance, instead of passing our opinion. For many people, life is often centred on what they have to deal with, particularly on something like brain damage.
It must also be difficult for those who are born normally, then have something happen, for them to have to adapt into something that physically and emotionally changes them and their personalities.
Although we learn to adapt, it’s often made all the more difficult, because of other people’s lack of understanding, but already formed opinions on what we deal with. Unless anyone walks a mile in another person’s shoes, they can never know what it feels like, yet they go on to behave and form opinions, as if they know exactly how things are.
Brain damage is unique to the individual. There is very little understanding on how the damaged brain affects that particular individual, therefore it’s enormously difficult to apply text book generalisations with any real accuracy.
There is another train of thought that when we spend our time continually offering opinions, we leave little time to think about and work on our own life.