We will come across people in our lives who don’t see their own behaviour and also don’t see an issue with their actions, but it will be pretty clear to us.
It’s also not something we can challenge, if they don’t see their actions, but if it’s something we’ve already surmised, the issue is clearly there. People either don’t lay claim to their actions because it’s easier, or they simply choose to ignore what they’ve done, because they aren’t bothered to deal with it. Either way it wouldn’t be our issue to accept.
On our part, we must learn to navigate interactions with people who at times can seem impossible to deal with, so that we preserve our own sanity. Of course, if we see a problem in someone’s actions, the odds are others will too. Perhaps those others aren’t interested in admitting there could be something wrong with the other person’s actions.
Pride comes before a fall and if that is the case, inevitably the fall will come anyway. There could of course be an underlying issue we’ve failed to recognise that is responsible for their actions, but that is something they would need to explain.
It’s important not to take what anyone says personally, particularly if their behaviour or words are hurtful. Anything that’s said with malicious intent, is usually said because that person is having a hard time. It has nothing to do with us or how they feel about us. It’s usually about how they feel about themselves.
For us it would be important to say what we feel about their actions. When we put the truth out, somehow the universe finds a way to balance it. That is what matters.