We’re not off the hook because we avoid responsibility for our actions, or choose to live in denial.
By us choosing to right a wrong says something about us and does more for us than choosing to ignore our experiences as if those experiences didn’t happen. The truth is that we can never change what we’ve done, but we can make another person’s life better, by being open and honest about those things.
Coming to understand our thoughts and feelings, unravelling our experiences helps us see a clearer picture. Where others are guilty, how easy it is for others to impart their guilt, for us to begin to think that we are to blame.
As we carry the guilt, we’re made to believe that we’re to blame and that we are in fact responsible. It’s such a terrible misconception, and one which carries us throughout our adult life, until we change our thinking. We’re not responsible for other people’s deeds, even if other people don’t accept they are responsible.
The reality is if they can’t admit to what they’ve done, nothing will ever change. Blocking things out as if those things didn’t happen, doesn’t make it so, or make those things any less untrue.