Having a positive sense of self can and is to be our own fairy tale ending. But to have that we must choose to look behind our relationships at ourselves and be prepared to work at and incorporate emotional and spiritual growth into the equation. Sadly, relationships can’t and don’t give us the fairy tale ending.
I’ve had to fight to exist in my life, to find things out, to bring reasoning back into the equation. Therefore, perhaps fairy tales don’t exist, or if they do maybe not in the way we think. The concept sounds idyllic, but reality bites and we’re back to real-life. Whether it’s families or work, there will always be added stress and no fairy tale endings.
Marriage sadly doesn’t change life, or the stress elements of life. In some ways, marriage brings about more stress because of family’s expectations on both sides. It simply changes our status. Although the status allows us to change the way we feel about ourselves, marriage isn’t as easy as we think. Sadly, our story doesn’t begin at the marriage stage, marriage is simply a continuation of ‘our story.’
Perhaps we must look at this topic differently. What we if we were to let go of the excuses, the complaints, the assumptions and the negative energy, so that we begin to work from our core? What if we were to start building on and changing the way we see our lives and each other and bring respect into the equation?
What if we were to stop dwelling on what we can’t change and change the things we can, including attitudes? Perhaps then we’d get more of the fairy tale life. What if we were also to look for the reasons and lessons in all situations and change the elements that continue to add to our everyday stress?
For us to have a chance of our fairy tale life, we must take all stress and the many complications out and replace them with a life that just ticks over without the stress, better communication and where relationships run like clockwork.
I believe that then becomes our happy ever after life with a fairy tale ending. It’s the attitudes that make it so, not things.