However hard it is to look back at our own lives and feel cross that we missed out on so many things, it is our own family that must be our priority.
Often the choices that were made for us were based on what our parents wanted, or what we thought our parents expected us to do. Looking back on these times can be very painful for most of us and although we cannot turn the clock back or change what we missed out on, we can change the way we perceive our past and the way we go on to perceive our future.
Although I failed to achieve my potential growing up, I was determined that if I had children they would have the opportunity to meet theirs. We should always try where possible, to make sure that we change things so our children meet their full potential in whatever they choose to do, even if we’ve failed in ours.
When I got past the point of feeling guilty about the things I had failed at, I began to take stock of how much of those failings I was responsible for and found that all of them weren’t actually down to me. Although it took a while to set about making some of the changes I needed to make, I did and have never looked back.
In the bigger picture our lives turn out how they’re supposed to. We should learn to embrace that concept, whilst we continue to work on the things we know we can change, not the things that have gone and we can’t do anything about. That only sets to hurt us more.