We see what benefits us, what conventional wisdom tells us to see and that can’t help us. We would rather be right than admit we’re wrong, than someone else prove us right. Changing our views would be an admission we’re wrong, or an incomplete understanding of an issue.
When it comes to beliefs, they are tied up in our identities. If changing our beliefs mean changing our identity that may come with disapproval from those we share our identity with. But seeing what we need to see is important for our spiritual and emotional growth and so that we’re true to ourselves.
We will always live in a fantasy world away from our realities when we ignore what we see. But living with the facts and how they present, isn’t always bad. In the short term, it may be hard to deal with the facts as they present, but in the longer term, the facts as they present will help us acclimatise to our realities and uncover the truth.
Exactly what we need to know is exactly what will help us change and put us into better emotional spaces. Our realities in the present don’t change or move on, unless we deal with them and move those things on.
They’re usually there for us to learn something about ourselves and so that we can make good for other people. The reason we’re all here.