Our relationship with anxiety

Anxiety is uncomfortable. It’s an undercurrent that brings about intense feelings that for some may create panic. What matters is how we change our relationship with anxiety.

But it’s not realistic to think we can have a life without anxiety. It’s about being able to co-manage anxiety so we control it, it doesn’t control us. It’s about us creating a greater sense of space in the mind. Finding and working on a different perspective.

Anxiety attracts our attention to something and usually for good reason. It’s based on irrational fear. But we must pay attention to it. It’s not something we can just resist that if we ignore it, it will go away. If we ignore anxiety, it can become troublesome and destructive. It’s something we must acknowledge and deal with.

We must learn not to buy into it but must be okay with it. It’s not something we can push away either. Instead we must find ways to deal with it. We must learn to change our relationship with it, so that we’re more comfortable with it.

It is a gentle reminder of the life we’ve had, the battles we’ve fought, yet to work on. It comes and goes, because that’s what anxiety does.


29 Nov, 2018

2 thoughts on “Our relationship with anxiety

  1. Boy, I am familiar with anxiety, which isn’t surprising because of the childhood I had.

    I think it’s funny but also sad, seeing that when most people are freaking out over things, it doesn’t really faze me as I’m so used to bizarre things happening.

    I already have PTSD so the first thing that happens is that I end up automatically dis-associating so I’m not feeling anything right then.

    The biggest problem is those feelings are buried and end up coming out in odd behaviors, because I don’t know how to process them normally.

    It’s something that DBT has helped with, but I have to pay attention to what’s happening so that I don’t have the outbursts that usually make things worse.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, I get where you are with this. Where you should have had the input to help you work through your anxiety, you were left to fend for yourself.

      Disassociation is very much part of anxiety. The more we deal with anxiety the more we will disassociate. Over time it’s what we will continually do. It then becomes the new normal.

      What you’re describing is what I did as a child, also had anxiety to deal with through autism symptoms. I would continually switch off, I didn’t know that was disassociation. I’ve learned something new today.

      To understand is to learn. Look at how much we have both learned over the years. It’s the reason why I write and why my website works. We help each other understand and overcome our difficulties.

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