Our secret lives are just that, secret. Our secrets are based on information that we know about but we don’t talk about. And although that’s not always bad and it may sometimes be necessary, it very much depends on the secret and whether the secret we’re keeping is going to be detrimental to our health.
The jury is still out on exactly how harmful secrets are. Previous studies reported that keeping secrets comes at a high cost to our health. (“Finkenauer, Engels & Meeus, 2002; Finkenauer & Rime, 1998; Masuda, Anderson, Wendell, Chou, Price, & Feinstein, 2011; Uysal, Lin, & Knee, 2010; Wismeijer, 2011.”)
Any secret we become pre-occupied with has the capacity to be detrimental to our health. Being pre-occupied with is often the cause of long-term health issues. A secret may be pre-occupying and all-consuming for one person, but may be shrugged off by someone else.
How we handle ourselves make us ill?
Sadly, it’s not the secret or the content of the secret that’s harmful. It’s us revisiting the secret and turning it over in our thought that makes what we’re carrying harmful.
It’s the not being able to shift that thought process, being stuck in the same mind-set, it’s the not sleeping at night, feeling uncomfortable just by knowing we know something others don’t.
Perhaps that’s reason enough for us to sort things out.