Our selective deeds

Whether we think about it, or even realise it, we are selective about a lot of things. We’re selective about what we eat, how we spend our time, how we spend our money. We’re even selective about our deeds.

Perhaps we should consciously start to ask ourselves why we’re selective about those things. Selective deeds must be purpose-based, we should strive to prioritise good deeds.

We should be here to help others so that when we’re no longer around, we’ve made a difference. Good deeds show we have empathy and compassion: that we have integrity and that we want to be good people.

We will always make a positive impact when we do good deeds. The saying that ‘it’s better to give than to receive’ is right. Researchers in the United States now say that giving to charity, or spending money on others, makes us feel better, more than if we were to buy things for ourselves. Therefore, helping others is beneficial for our own mental and physical health. (Source: https://positivepsychologyprogram.com)

When we help others, we are promoting physiological changes in the brain that are associated with happiness. Long-term, these feelings are followed by longer periods of calm that lead to better health and wellbeing.

Helping others distracts us from our own problems, encourages us to lead a more active life, and improves self-esteem and confidence, which in turn, improves competence. It also allows us to engage in meaningful activities and helps us improve social support to our community.

A good deed has a positive impact on our perceptions, which gives us a more positive outlook on life. Helping those who are less fortunate makes us realise how lucky we are and stops us from focusing on ourselves.

Good deeds promote positive emotions and help us reduce stress. Reducing stress boosts immunity, protecting us from disease.

23 Feb, 2019

4 thoughts on “Our selective deeds

  1. They like to say that nice guys finish last and I agree with them. My problem has always been being too nice forced into being a people pleaser as a kid, being brainwashed into thinking it was normal.

    Therefore I have such a bad habit of picking people to help who always seem to take advantage. It’s why I have been trapped in a toxic and abusive relationship for so many years, not knowing quite how to get out.

    I don’t mind helping people out, but in doing so I forget to help myself and I’m the one who always ends up suffering. I have to work on finding the balance between taking care of myself and helping others, so that I am able to help others too.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, I can resonate with everything you say here. I also ended up being a people pleaser on the back of a disability I didn’t know I had, looking for acceptance.

      But with work on ourselves Randy, I believe we can put good deeds out to as many people as we can. Not enough of us do, through our cultures and society we’re taught to look after No 1.

      Through our own experiences starting with ourselves, we can heal and then help others.

  2. I think the relevance of a man rest on his efforts to do good, to be compassionate and reasonable. And to know that he will be held accountable for his actions.

    We are being tested by the universe.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes I agree. I believe we must be ‘good, compassionate and reasonable.’

      Our lives revolve around the universe. I also believe we are being tested that when we put out good we get good back in the same way if we do bad things, bad things will come back.

      But there is no time scale on when things will come back.

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