Whether we think about it, or even realise, we’re selective about a lot of things. We’re selective about what we eat, how we spend our time, how we spend our money, we’re even selective about our deeds.
But perhaps it’s important we consciously start to ask ourselves why and what we’re selective about. Selective deeds must be purpose based. We must ask ourselves questions like why we’re here, what life means and what being here means. It is important we think about our good deeds.
The reason we’re here is to help others so that when we’re no longer here, we’ve made a difference. Good deeds show we have empathy and compassion that we have integrity and that we want to be good people.
We will always make a positive impact when we do good deeds. The saying that ‘it’s better to give than to receive,’ is correct. US researchers now say that giving to charity, or spending money on others makes us feel better, more than if we were to buy things for ourselves. Helping others is beneficial for our own mental and physical health.
When we help others, we are promoting physiological changes in the brain that are associated with happiness. Long-term, these feelings are followed by longer periods of calm that lead to better health and wellbeing.
Helping others distracts us from our own problems, and encourages us to lead a more active life, improves self-esteem and confidence that improves competence. It also allows us to engage in meaningful activity and helps us improve social support.
A good deed impacts our perceptions positively, which gives us a more positive outlook on life. Helping those who are less fortunate, makes us realise how lucky we are and stops us from focusing on ourselves. Good deeds promote positive emotions and helps reduce stress: reducing stress boosts immunity, and protects us from disease.
And where we’re making friends through the process of a good deed done that means we’re making the world a happier and a calmer place in which to live. We must do more good deeds, rather than make the deeds we do selective.