I believe it’s important we explore our thoughts, feelings and experiences, pertaining to parental influences and culture. In many respects, it’s how we learn to do things better and how we come to make positive changes in our life.
Consciously, we may not always equate how influential our parents or family are until we’re older or we have our own children, by which time the dye has been cast. It’s important to look at our relationships, knowing that traits we bring into our relationships are carried from childhood, based around cultures and made up of expectations about the world and how we must come to act.
How we act and react in our close relationships is largely a result of how we experience life in our family relationships. When it comes to committed relationships, there are without a doubt, clashes that we bring to the relationship, from our respective families.
As we begin to live our lives, it’s important we’re aware of family expectations, based around those early cultures. It’s vital we continue to work to change old expectations, so that new expectations can be formed. We come to learn through early experiences that culture and background traits take on inflexible characteristics, through which we often have very little choice.
During our lifetime, we will come to test and re-test programmed learning from our parents and will opt to either copy them, or change. Some of us of course will do neither and will continue to replicate our parents’ culture and personalities. Others will do the opposite, consciously making themselves aware of any new changes, they feel they should make.
It is only when our experiences force us to recognise other possibilities through new experiences that we begin to see and change any conditioned behaviour.