Passing over

26 Oct 2016

It’s a fact that we live and we die that we cannot live forever and although the whole passing thing can be daunting and put fear into us, there is something about someone’s passing that helps us draw comfort, as long as we come to understand.

Religion has nothing to do with the after-life. There is this life and there is the spirit world, which is where we go when we pass. When it comes to a loved one’s passing, our loved ones are never far away. Once they pass, they stay around to help guide us from above, watching over us.

They hear and see everything from the other side. I believe that is true. I also believe that when it’s a loved one’s time to pass, no amount of praying will help us keep them. A prayer from us willing them to get better, a prayer that goes unanswered was never meant to be answered. When it’s our time it’s time.

Although the whole concept isn’t easy to understand, it can be the difference between living with fear in our hearts and being at peace with the concept. It doesn’t matter the age, the more we understand everything there is to know about spirituality and death, the less fear we will carry, the more inclined we will be to let go of our loved ones when it’s that time.

To believe in spirituality allows us to understand that what is meant to be will happen, it is part of the process whether we spend a lifetime in prayer or not. Praying doesn’t make it so. If prayer brings us comfort that’s okay. It wouldn’t be my place to tell anyone not to pray if they draw comfort from it. If a loved one is meant to recover from illness they will.

We pray, then blame god when what we lose a loved one. We literally hold on to our loved ones as if our lives depend on it, scared to let go, because we’ll be on our own. The irony is that once our loved ones get to the stage of death, they already know and are comfortable with the idea that it’s their time and we are on our own.

It’s the family they leave behind who struggle with the concept of the loss, but from my own experiences, having lost both parents, it really doesn’t have to be that way.

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  1. Tim 26. Oct, 2016 at 3:13 pm #

    I believe in life after death. That the life of the soul travels toward God/Universe, towards some kind of beginning; we survive our bodily death. But it’s naive to think we know anything in advance about death or even life for that matter.

    Yet no one can convince me intellectually what I already believe in my heart.

    Bold and beautiful blog Ilana.

    • Ilana 26. Oct, 2016 at 3:28 pm #

      Awww thanks Tim. What you believe in your heart cannot be questioned by anyone else, neither should it be. Your beliefs are your beliefs.

      I have to say I know a lot more about life, more than I do about the transition of passing from one life to another. It’s only what I understand and read about; but I believe there are people who are more informed, who are in contact with spirits, who have crossed over. Colin Fry was a Celebrity Medium who used to do exactly that.

      I also believe that a near death, or out of body experience would help us understand more, but agree with you that it is difficult to know in advance. Reading a book gives us a little more to go on but it’s not the same thing.

      There is a film that I’ve just watched, called ‘Heaven is for real,’ which touches on this very subject. If you haven’t seen it, it’s a must see film. It will bring about more understanding of the spirit world concept and how it all works.

  2. Brad 26. Oct, 2016 at 4:16 pm #

    I used to struggle with death and found it very difficult when my father died at 56.

    I believe we are here temporarily, occupying this body for a defined and predetermined time and then we move on. Nonetheless passing can be very difficult and the understanding you have explained certainly helps the process.

    It’s a subject that many people shy away from; but you have addressed it head on, beautifully.

    • Ilana 26. Oct, 2016 at 4:53 pm #

      It’s always difficult to lose a loved one when we’re young, but learning the concept of a loved one passing does help us come to terms with death in the easiest way.

      I remember losing my grandmother at around the age of 22 and really didn’t cope with losing her. No one ever talks about terminal illness or death and therefore it’s easy to feel scared.

      I feel We must continually work on our emotional health and incorporate all aspects of emotional growth as part of a healthier lifestyle, including talking about illness and the possibility we might lose a loved one.

      Unfortunately, it’s one surety we have that families and society tend to completely ignore; until we have to go through it.

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