It’s a fact that we live and we die that we cannot live forever and although the whole passing thing can be daunting and put fear into us, there is something about someone’s passing that helps us draw comfort, as long as we come to understand.
Religion has nothing to do with the after-life. There is this life and there is the spirit world, which is where we go when we pass. When it comes to a loved one’s passing, our loved ones are never far away. Once they pass, they stay around to help guide us from above, watching over us.
They hear and see everything from the other side. I believe that is true. I also believe that when it’s a loved one’s time to pass, no amount of praying will help us keep them. A prayer from us willing them to get better, a prayer that goes unanswered was never meant to be answered. When it’s our time it’s time.
Although the whole concept isn’t easy to understand, it can be the difference between living with fear in our hearts and being at peace with the concept. It doesn’t matter the age, the more we understand everything there is to know about spirituality and death, the less fear we will carry, the more inclined we will be to let go of our loved ones when it’s that time.
To believe in spirituality allows us to understand that what is meant to be will happen, it is part of the process whether we spend a lifetime in prayer or not. Praying doesn’t make it so. If prayer brings us comfort that’s okay. It wouldn’t be my place to tell anyone not to pray if they draw comfort from it. If a loved one is meant to recover from illness they will.
We pray, then blame god when what we lose a loved one. We literally hold on to our loved ones as if our lives depend on it, scared to let go, because we’ll be on our own. The irony is that once our loved ones get to the stage of death, they already know and are comfortable with the idea that it’s their time and we are on our own.
It’s the family they leave behind who struggle with the concept of the loss, but from my own experiences, having lost both parents, it really doesn’t have to be that way.