From the minute we’re born, expectations are put upon us. For some, expectations are about education, for others expectations are about children being settled, in a marriage with a family.
Like an underlying current, expectations continue to envelop, as we grow. Communities, parents, extended families, the environment and school all have expectations of us. It’s also a generation and cultural thing,
Society expects us to teach children how to behave, it also expects them to reach certain standards based around culture. They also expect children to know about values and morals too.
Why are the expectations there?
Expectations are part of the bigger picture and have become commonplace in people’s minds, so much so that they are part of our DNA now. We’re not only expected to conform, but to perform, also.
For many, expectations are well intentioned but they can have a negative effect on many of us who struggle with the concept as it serves to do the opposite. If we fail to live up to other people’s expectations that can impact us emotionally too.
If we fail to live up to our own expectations of the expectations put upon us, that will also have a negative impact on us. It’s not only tiring and counter-productive, but failing to meet expectations can knock our confidence completely. I believe that will have an impact on how we feel and can be harmful in the longer term.
Finally, I believe that as long as we do our best that should be enough. I also believe that without pressures and people’s expectations of us, we will always choose to give of our best, without thinking of others’ expectations.