Placate vs challenge

It’s easier to turn someone’s attention to something they want to have, or they want to do, rather than challenge them. In other words, it easier to placate than challenge.

To placate means to pacify, appease, make peace, but we cannot challenge anyone to make peace or calm them down, unless they want to. We can challenge ourselves to change the way we respond, but trying to placate someone who is a challenge, is not something easily achieved.

Whatever we say to someone, if they’re that way inclined, they will always put their own slant on things. It’s not always about how what we say, or what we say. In the same way we can be careful and say everything right, others have the power to change how a conversation is received.

Although communication is where it all starts, if we all chose to work together, everything would be less of a challenge.


23 Jul, 2019

2 thoughts on “Placate vs challenge

  1. This sounds like my last relationship, where it was easier to placate my ex, rather than try to argue with her until she got her own way.

    I was raised in a world where it was easier to placate my parents, and other people, rather than try to fight. Obviously this doesn’t get you very far in your own life, as you always end up doing what they want.

    It didn’t make sense to me why others kept choosing to stay in toxic relationships, but when that lifestyle becomes the norm, you don’t know anything different.

    I got to the point where I decided to fight back, as I realized I deserved better, and it’s one of the best decisions I have ever made.

    1. Thanks Randy. I think sometimes we do have to mentally fight back, just so that we get to live the life we want.

      Yes, it tends to get rather messy when one person gives all the time and the other person thinks it’s okay to take, without giving back.

      It also depends on how our conversations finish. The softly, softly approach will always works better than going in guns blazing. We will always get the best out of people that way.

      Give and take is even better. That way we will never have to placate or challenge.

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