The term victim is used to describe someone who suffers from a destructive or injurious action, but I believe there are more explanations than the actual meaning. Being a victim means someone else is calling the shots, being a victim may not always equate to injury or abuse.
But how many of us remain the victim because we don’t know how to change being one? We can be a victim of circumstance, a victim of our own success, a victim of childhood, anything that changes the way we were, to the way we are now.
When we make excuses, we play the victim card, for example, ‘I would work harder if I was given a raise,’ or ‘I’m stingy with money because my family made me like that.’ We tend to define our roles and stay within those roles, but where some of us will break the stigma attached to those roles, others will stay in those roles and continue to play the victim card.
Many of us don’t even know we’re doing it, but when we continue to blame others, we become the victim. Thinking the victim is normally associated with frustration and hopelessness. We often tell ourselves we can’t do anything about our situation.
But once we recognise and understand that we need to change the way we perceive our lives, we will find ways of moving on.