The term victim is used to describe someone who suffers from a destructive or injurious action, but I believe there are more explanations than that. Being a victim means someone else is calling the shots; being a victim may not always result from injury or abuse.
But how many of us remain the victim because we don’t know how to change? We can be a victim of circumstance, a victim of our own success, a victim of childhood, anything that changes the way we were, to the way we are now.
When we make excuses, we play the victim card, for example, “I would work harder at my job if I was given a wage rise,” or “I’m stingy with money because my family made me like that.” We define our roles and stay within those roles, but where some of us will break the stigma attached to those roles, others will stay in them and continue to play the victim.
Many of us don’t even know we’re doing it, but when we continue to blame others, we become the victim. Thinking we are the victim is associated with frustration and hopelessness. When we recognise and understand we need to change, we will find ways to move on from it.