Whilst we easily identify the process of projection in others, few of us will equate that in ourselves, unless we know of course and choose to opt out.
Growing up, parents will often project their opinions on us, as their parents did with them and in turn we will project our opinion on our children. How many times have you caught yourself saying the very things your parents said to you and then stop yourself in mid-sentence when you realise you sound just like your parents?
Unfortunately, unless we consciously think about what we say, projections are often more difficult to spot. We’re not always aware unless our conscious and unconscious thoughts are in sync with each other on what those projections are. Unless we’re aware of the things we say, we will always continue to project on to other people, without knowing we are.
Projecting opinions, isn’t just about telling someone how to live their life. We often use projection negatively to complain about our daily stress, offloading our moods on to those close to us, because we’ve failed to deal with our stress.
It’s never okay to offload. If offloading happens frequently, it can leave the other person irritated, upset and disillusioned with where they are.