“Relationships fail when people take their own insecurities and project them as their partner’s flaws.” – Steve Maraboli
Quotes will either make us think about things, or will resonate with us in some way, either because we’ve seen it happen, or it’s been our own experience. Perhaps, therefore we need to ask the question, why some people will use their insecurities and project them as their partner’s flaws, as if their partners are somehow to blame for how they are.
No one seems to take responsibility for their insecurities, let alone their actions and although it happens in personal relationships, it’s also happening in society, in communities and in the wider world. It is also being played out on the centre stage in government.
We all live with insecurities and have issues to grapple with, some more than most, but if those insecurities are left to manifest themselves into our psyche, they will eventually begin to change the way we see and deal with our partners and that can’t make for a happy or long-lasting relationship.
But it’s unfair that we choose not to take responsibility for ourselves and instead insist on making our insecurities and issues about our partners. For some couples their relationships may stagnate, for others their relationships may fail.
Despite those scenarios, we still continue to tell ourselves there’s nothing wrong with us. When we make our lives about someone else, we’re convincing ourselves there’s nothing wrong with us and that’s not true. There’s everything wrong with us.
Whether we have insecurities or not, relationships shouldn’t be about passing those off, they should be about making the best of what we have and building on that and working through our insecurities.