Purposeful connections

I have always believed in the universe, how it connects with us and how those connections bring people into our lives, if only for a fleeting moment. I also believe why people aren’t supposed to stay, or why we’re not supposed to stay in other people’s lives.

People come into our lives, often with a message unbeknown to us, unless we’re aware of how the connection works. When it comes to life of course, some of us won’t consciously stop to think about those connections, why they happen or what they mean, but others will be aware of why those connections happen.

Purposeful connections are there specifically to help us look at our lives, to bring what we’re doing into focus, so that we can work through those things and choose to do those things differently. That connection may be fleeting. It may be for a few weeks, even a few months, but those connections are meant to happen. The universe doesn’t advertise, so it would be easy for us to miss its message.

I remember a conversation that took place with a tutor who fleetingly came into my life. She asked me a question about the course my daughter was thinking of doing at university the following year, but after a few minutes of our conversation, the penny dropped that the conversation that had just taken place, had in fact taken place for a reason and I smiled because I knew exactly what that reason was.

For me, it was clear. Not having that conversation would have taken my daughter down the wrong route and because I wasn’t comfortable with her choice and there was already a question mark there for me, this phone call brought me the answer I needed. When it comes to those connections, I don’t think we consciously look for an understanding, but they’re there.

With all purposeful conversations, we must bring our thoughts into focus so we don’t miss their meaning, even if it means us having to fill in the blanks. Comments or conversations meant for us will always reach us, usually appearing in the form of a message. Like morse code, we must be adept at recognising the signs of those messages.

People come into our lives at certain points, because the universe believes we need them to. On our part we must accept this is exactly what we need, instead of using resistance. We must also come to accept that the universe believes we’re ready to accept the message as our challenge, to change what the universe feels we need to change in order to continue to find success.

The universe will primarily intervene, because it knows before we do that what we’re doing isn’t working fully or that what we’re doing isn’t getting us the right response or result. The universe will always impart the information we need to know, so that we can help ourselves work through a new approach.

Unfortunately, as is mostly the case, we become complacent. We rely on our daily habits and patterns to show us the way and never stop to think about what changes we perhaps need to make. Instead of looking for a new understanding that changes the way we do things, we continue to lead blindly. It’s not enough to simply read the message. We also need to understand the message and why the connection has been made at that particular time. That’s so important.

We must also be prepared to open our eyes, to understand those brief connections, interpret and decipher the information and accept we have a new challenge that we need to take to help us become successful. That what we’re doing isn’t right.

31 Jan, 2017

10 thoughts on “Purposeful connections

  1. I’ve believed the same thing for many years. When I explain my belief to other people, they either understand what I’m talking about or try to, or they give me a look of confusion and insanity.

    We’re all here for our own purpose, our own path. Some friends and loved ones are set in our path to guide us toward our goals.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. Yes, it’s not always easy to understand how the Universe works and what it all means and I absolutely agree with your understanding. I would just add that it’s not always family, primarily because we may not always get the support.

      I believe and from what I know it’s anyone who wasn’t in our life, who comes into our life, even if it is for a short while and who will change or have an impact on us, on how we do things. As you say, set in our path to help guide us to a more successful outcome.

  2. It’s a mystery how life inspires awe when we least expected it, when people inadvertently keep us from poisoning our lives.

    You’re right to acknowledge that the Universe is the author of it.

    1. Aww thanks Tim. Yes, I believe the signs are there and we are saved, or can be but possibly not in all cases.

      I say, possibly not mainly because some of us may press the self-destruct button and in doing so don’t realise the signs are there.

  3. I believe this too. This is especially true of people who come into our lives, often unexpectedly, and do or say something to change circumstances that things happen for a reason, although we may not understand it at the time.

    I often look back and realise afterwards, sometime years later and the ‘penny drops’ and I have a better understanding of a situation.

    Understanding that these seemingly chance happenings are all part of a bigger jigsaw is helpful, as it offers an explanation or answers that we may otherwise struggle with.

  4. Yes, they do happen like the time I was handed a bag of old comic books that led to an escape for me from the horrors of my childhood. It provided heroes for me to believe in, at a time when there wasn’t a whole lot for me to believe in.

    We didn’t have much of a chance to make a lot of connections for all of those years, but that was one pivotal moment that could have changed the direction my life was headed in. It worked for a while until things happened that I didn’t know how to deal with, so I became lost in my own mind for a very long time.

    My Mother finally succeeded on breaking my spirit bending me to her will and that’s when I stopped caring about so many things. The other connection would have to be when my daughter was born, seeing as I was able to love her in a way that I hadn’t been able to for a long time.

    I hate to imagine that it was meant to be that she ended up having Cerebral Palsy, but she was alive and it could have been so much worse. She actually loved me just as much in return, which should have been enough to keep me going but it wasn’t.

    There were so many other issues that I hadn’t dealt with, so eventually my demons won the war. This still is so very hard to deal with at times, but I know if it was possible to change things, I would. She is the one person I regret letting down the most, since I so desperately wanted to be the kind of father that she needed.

    I’m sure there were plenty more that I can’t think of right off hand. One of the hardest things I have had to do is learn when one of those connections is either good or bad for me. I was forced as a child to be very nice to some very bad people, so eventually I wasn’t always able to tell the difference.

    My parents didn’t really allow us to think for ourselves, since they didn’t want people to know what was going on at home. We were deliberately kept isolated from others and even if we did make friends, we were too ashamed to bring them home.

    My ability to connect with other human beings was seriously compromised so now at my age, I have to learn how to make those friends that I never really had.

    I just have to be a lot more careful in who I allow into my life.

    1. It’s wonderful when we have something that takes us out of where we find ourselves. I took myself off, not always sure where, but it was my time to reflect and that I believed saved me.

      Yes, the times we’re supposed to connect, we find we can’t; because we haven’t got the tools because we haven’t been taught. All you can do Randy is do what you’re doing.

      You are an inspiration to me because you always find a way through and do it with such positivity.

      1. Thanks. You have no idea of how amazing it is to be called an inspiration, considering I don’t hear it from other people right now.

        Most of what I hear are complaints about all the things I’m not doing, because they think I’m supposed to be magically cured overnight. It’s like somebody expecting your issues to just vanish, when that isn’t going to happen.

        It would be fantastic if people could learn to have a tiny bit of empathy for others once in a while.

        1. No problem Randy. I tell things how I see them and you are.

          If others fully understood what it takes for us to get out there, they would have empathy. People who don’t have or show empathy are usually like that with themselves. Those are my experiences.

          At times, I’ve struggled to comprehend my own life, so I know what it’s like for others, even though our experiences are different. It’s a shame some people just don’t quite get it.

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