Perhaps it’s not news that being on the receiving end of someone’s agenda doesn’t help us, or our relationships. But it’s not only institutions that push agendas, individuals do it too.
For those pushing their agenda, they will come in and talk about the things they’re struggling with, not looking for advice or an opinion, but using us as a sounding block. On our part whether we hand out the advice or not, we become the sounding block for the other person to push his or her agenda.
But those pushing an agenda don’t come to look for approval, or help. That’s not how it works. Pushing an agenda means trying to push to make something happen, for the other person to agree that what they’re doing is right, even if we know it’s not. That can never work, because they’re not being open and transparent, about who they are.
We’re seeing governments pushing their own agendas, not taking other people’s opinions, into consideration. What’s hard to grasp is that whilst anyone pushes their own agenda, they’re throwing a childish temper tantrum into the equation when others don’t see the world in the same way they do.
But nothing will or can be accomplished that way. When anyone pushes an agenda, they’re telling the universe they care about themselves more than they care about what others think or feel and the universe simply won’t allow that.
In the longer term it can never work.