Questioning our baggage

To discover the root cause of what you’re dealing with, to free yourself from baggage requires honest introspection. Not knowing what the root causes are, steals your energy from the many positive influences you will then fail to recognise.

As is life, the build-up of what we carry or deal with, lies heavily sometimes. Over time, the weight of our baggage, responsibilities, grudges and regrets not only begin to affect our emotional health, but our physical health too.

Carrying baggage means we may struggle with guilt, brought about through the decisions others have made for us, primarily because we were given no choice and because we felt obliged to follow. With dutch courage, we can make different choices.

Introspection is something we can all do, but where emotional baggage will present itself in physical ailments like backache, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, headaches, feeling tired and rundown, not many of us will make the connection between our baggage and physical health.

A headache may seem like a headache, but it’s an issue waiting to be resolved. Not learning to use introspection, or deal with and be honest with yourself, contributes to suppressed emotions and illness. We must learn to introspect.

25 Jul, 2017

6 thoughts on “Questioning our baggage

  1. We all have baggage, whether or not we think we have and I completely agree we must try and address that baggage. Otherwise it has a tendency to spill over into our daily lives and usually for the worse.

    1. Yes, quite. Thank you. The sad reality is that the majority of us will and do have baggage but won’t admit to it. It’s usually down to someone else.

      They say something we don’t like and we don’t like it. That’s not their issue, it’s what we’re dealing with or have been dealing with that is never resolved and we make it about them.

      As you say our baggage has a tendency to spill over into our daily lives, usually for the worse and that then becomes another person’s issue, because we offload.

  2. I have been questioning my baggage for most of my life and have realized that a good 90% of it wasn’t even mine.

    My parents dumped a mountain of it on to me which I have been fighting to get out from under, for as long as I can remember. The biggest problem with that is that it takes forever to sort through, when you can only handle a teaspoon at a time.

    People expect you to just get over it, which isn’t really possible when you were conditioned and programmed by years of brainwashing that most can’t even begin to comprehend.

    There are so many times where I would have rather been physically abused, since those scars actually heal and the pain goes away, whereas the emotional ones never go away. Therefore I need to speed up the process and open up more about things that I still have nightmares about, seeing as that’s the only way to get through.

    It will be like digging a tunnel through the bedrock of that mountain of guilt, shame and remorse but I need to do it, to finally figure out what is mine and what isn’t.

    My Dad finally passed away so I don’t feel that sense of responsibility as much anymore. Both of my parents had issues that they never addressed so we’re stuck having to do it for them. What we went through because of them wasn’t fair but sadly life isn’t always fair and there isn’t much we can do about it.

    What we can do is work on accepting what life has offered us and trying to make the best of it while we have the chance. It definitely doesn’t mean that we have to like it, but we do have to accept things as they are.

    1. Thanks Randy. I agree with you. We can work on accepting what life has offered or given us and try to make the best of it.

      I believe it’s important that we accept we have baggage, question what belongs to us, own that and let go of the rest. Although it’s hard to equate it sometimes, particularly in our low moments, but our experiences can help us become stronger.

      Becoming stronger will help us look for and change certain aspects of our lives, including letting go of the baggage that doesn’t belong to us.

      As you rightly say Randy 90% of your experiences weren’t down to anything you did. That’s a lot of baggage to carry that isn’t yours. It’s important to question the reasons for the baggage and let those go.

  3. I often have confidential conversations with myself regarding mistakes I’ve made and the baggage I’ve incurred because of it, sort of like therapy.

    I will not kick myself in the rear for the rest of my life by having a permanent issue with myself; that’s baggage.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, a conversation with ourselves where we begin to question what we’ve done is making ourselves aware that we potentially made a mistake, rather than ignoring our mistakes and carrying that experience.

      I think you’re right to talk things through, because that means you’re bringing your thoughts into your conscious, putting yourself in a position where you’re aware of the thought process, that lead to your decisions.

      I also believe that continually staying present, means we make less mistakes and means we carry less baggage. It’s important we question and let go of other people’s baggage that doesn’t belong to us.

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