Questions and clarification

Asking questions gives us clarity. It’s the simplest way of learning and its effective too. It’s also the best way for us to gain deeper insight. Questions inform, inspire, they encourage healthy debate and discussion.

But questions may not always go down well either. It depends who is answering your questions and whether they’re happy for you to ask. Since asking questions is the easiest way to absorb knowledge and it’s important we ask, why do some of stop asking questions, or why do some of us not even start?

If someone else can ask the questions for us, it means we don’t have to, others may think they know or assume they know the answers, so don’t bother to ask. They will usually remain steadfast in their assumptions, as they continue to cling to their beliefs.

But sometimes we’re afraid questions might show us in a poor light, if others don’t agree or think our questions are inappropriate. On the other hand, asking question is a sign of strength and intelligence and allows us to follow through with conviction. Asking questions bring clarification.


16 Nov, 2017

4 thoughts on “Questions and clarification

  1. We are entitled to ask questions and get answers, even though both might be difficult. I don’t believe the saying that ‘ignorance is bliss.’

    1. Thank you. Yes, we simply can’t grow without asking questions. But we have a right to ask and be listened to.

      I also don’t believe ignorance is bliss either, because sooner or later we will find out the things we thought we didn’t need to know about, or didn’t want to know but needed to know.

      In my case, sadly not knowing about Cerebral Palsy made me more irritable and annoyed. I grew up with anger issues around my disability. No, ignorance is certainly not bliss.

  2. Asking questions was kind of a waste of time when I was growing up, since my parents didn’t really seem to know a whole lot.

    It was either that or they just didn’t want to be bothered, which I always thought was 10 times worse; seeing as I knew they were deliberately choosing to ignore me.

    The only time they ever really seemed to pay attention to any of us, was when they wanted something from us like our birthday money or to parade us out like poor orphan children, to get sympathy from people, so they could get what they wanted.

    This is exactly why I have such a hard time asking for help or anything from other people, since they always made us feel like we had to beg for their attention, like a dancing monkey.

    I refuse to dance for anyone anymore.

    1. Thanks Randy. It takes us a while to get there but you’re absolutely right, you don’t have to dance for anyone anymore.

      I understand your experiences Randy, because my experiences were very similar. We learned very early on not to ask questions and if we did we weren’t listened to. We knew not to ask because there was no point.

      Then there’s your other experiences with your parents, your mum particularly. But I agree with you when you say ‘I refuse to dance for anyone anymore.’

      You don’t have to Randy. You get to call the shots.

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